Choose a man with a good heart no matter what his financial status is

Feb 10, 2020 | Family & Life, Featured

Growing up, I was taught to look for a guy who’s financially established – who can provide a comfortable life, dream house, etc.

But I thank God for saving me from men (suitors) who can provide me a good life in this world standard but missed the biggest trait to look for when choosing a man to marry. 

Sadly, some of these guys are living a-not-so-good life now (I heard some cheated on their partner, some are into gambling and etc.) 

I am thankful that I chose a man who has a good heart. A man who is a work in progress. A man whom I can share my dreams with and build those dreams together. 

Inside the reality of married life you’ll see that having a big house, huge savings accounts are only secondary..

You’ll prefer someone whom you can talk to about anything, someone who’s also a good father to your children, someone who’s faithful, someone you can trust. 

Someone who prioritizes you over anything else. 

Someone who shares the load of parenting with you.. 

Someone who can make you laugh when life is heavy and hard. 

Someone who can see your worth and makes  you feel like he won the jackpot by the way he looks at you.. 

Someone who will cheer you on your passion..

Someone who is bold enough too to correct you when you’re wrong.. 

Most of all, a man who has a good heart not because he is a perfect guy, he is a work in progress like us, but he learns to love you better because He first loves God before anything else. 

Though he is not a millionaire, His God is a Great Provider, Generous Dad and Faithful Father. 

If I would have an advice to the youth today in choosing a man to marry, there is nothing wrong with men who are financially stable so don’t get me wrong. There are also rich, established and successful men who are good men as well. 

It’s just sad that practicality sometimes wins over what truly matters. Choose a man who has a good heart and loves God more than you.

Again work in progress doesn’t mean he is a lazy, a man who doesn’t have a dream nor vision in life. 

Money is just a tool, a good tool to provide for the needs  and wants of the family but money is not everything. Indeed there’s no price tag to a happy family – only God at the center is the key.

Don’t be afraid to marry a work in progress man. 

77 Comments

  1. Ann Margot Conde

    it was inspiring.

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    • L❀VE

      Looking forward for this man.. how cn i find you 😍😍😍

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    • Ofel Obena

      I agree with that, the man I love is the man who are in work in progress .. and I found on him the love and respect that I’m looking for…

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    • Shirley B . Gevero

      Yes thats true

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    • Bryan Kamande

      Wow!!!that just summarized a whole book on marriage and love…..Work in progress!!!

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    • Mischelle

      Wow this super inspring😍😍

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    • Sudasiatu

      indeed money is just a tool

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  2. Ailyn Monsanto

    Indeed.
    Inspiring story,love it

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    • Ming

      Amazing story ❀

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    • Ibrahim

      I am with you on that. The good man also go through hell, when they try there best to built a good relationship with his wife and family. Then get dropped because the wife don’t realy understand and leave. So what does a woman realy wants. Who is like that

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    • Mirai Mojz

      Thank you so much for the very inspiring love story..it will motivate us.

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  3. Ben

    Ladies, I recommend this to you

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    • Lameck

      Those are inspiring words , and true stroy indeed money can’t buy happiness (β™‘) but love it can and it conquers all.

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    • Rudrapersadh Rampersadh

      Look inside you find Happiness within you then you will find the right person don’t look for happiness in others when you have not found it. Life is simple people make it hard make circle small you will be content in life.

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    • Lucie

      Amen πŸ™ Ready and patiently waiting🀩

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  4. Kat

    Wow,that was very helpfull,thanj you!:-)

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    • Siscolimo

      Brilliant advice

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    • Kristel Laban

      Wow! I felt God has spoken to me through you. Thank you so much! 😌

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  5. Chao

    I am still single but in a relationship. I agree you Maam. Money is just a tool.

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    • rz

      i hope that my future gf or wife would think that way… i love it❀️❀️❀️

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  6. Oscar Ochele

    A really good piece if advice to the young suitors,who most of the time look for ”ready. made” persons to marry.

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    • Stella

      Nice

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  7. David

    You are special

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  8. Angela

    Wow I’m paying for the right one

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    • William

      God will answer your prayer in Jesus Christ mighty name.. Amen

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    • jeff

      I appreciate this, i got more hopeful . I’m still single, I need someone to warm me up,

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  9. Samuel Zion

    Well said. God help me

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    • Donita Allanigue

      Indeed. I love the man I found now. ❀️

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    • Kimberly

      Your message is truly inspiring ❀ I am blessed to have a man who has all the above qualities. A man with a good heart is all you need.

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  10. Hilda B Gumsat

    true.. although it’s hard battling financial challenges at the end of it all just sleeping or having the man you love beside u worth it all esp if u know that he loves you more than u love him..

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    • Coleen Delms

      In God’s will & time ❀️ James.

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  11. Hazel

    Amen

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  12. Michael

    Absolutely, commendable

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  13. Charlayne

    Hi have read this piece and I totally LOVE it and agree .I have just met someone and I’m hoping he is like this he has some.of these traits the best is he puts God first.

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  14. Shyr angela Enriquez

    So true but all the people are not perfect they comment mistake.and if marriage couples accept that already during their comment in a wedding days.for me open minded and everyone deserves a second chnge thank you..much love GOD BLESS us all.

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    • Lameck

      Oh thats great if u are ,life is good if u have someone special in ur life who always makes you smile and laugh together,someone who can make u as a first thing in his life……….

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  15. Rhoda

    Worth it to read. Thank you for the enlightenment. God bless your marriage

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  16. Nyce Lanny

    Absolutely right

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  17. Angela

    You nailed it.. Marry for love dont get married for money..

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  18. Vivian

    I will find a man with a good heart,low profile and honest

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  19. Junette resurreccion

    100% true

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    • Celinah

      I have been praying to God for a suiter and all of these factors tick the box. He must love God first then me.

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  20. Aderonke Muinat Azeez

    Wow…. very very inspiring

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    • Joniel yasay peΓ±as

      Im not perfect but im the man who still in progress and also i love the LORD more than me.

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  21. Etietop Emmanuel

    You have inspired me this morning

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  22. Wilson

    Nice πŸ‘

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  23. Dee

    Good read But I met someone who loved me and treated me like a queen but he didn’t have a road map and vision. He was into online scam and he kept giving himself excuses instead of pushing himself up. Sometimes I feel guilty for leaving but that’s not the kind of man I prayed for. Yes he acted like he was in love but was he really? Yes love is important but I want to build with a man genuinely.

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  24. Faustina

    These words are full of wisdom for this current generation. Twas worth reading and I’m glad i did to the end. Thanks for sharing

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  25. Mary

    Thank you so much, am very much inspired by this. May God bless you with more wisdom and understanding. In Jesus name. Amen.

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  26. Enzo

    Ladies who are like this are angels in their previous lives. Valuing a man’s heart. Very rare in this world. Nice article πŸ™‚ Kudos!

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  27. Poppy

    Hey, im with a man who has all of those traits, but the problem is his kinda dirty, he does clean around where he stays and i do help sometimes so that dirty house just frustrates me then he thinks i dont respect him because his not working which is not true

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  28. sunil kumar

    Its very realistic thought but the humanity goes on the materialistic way all are seeing money , living standard but don’t see any his pure lovable innocent heart, this is the reality
    I m also wait such pure hearted layperson

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  29. Annam

    Nic article! Inspiring

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  30. Usiomoifo Isoken

    This is really encouraging to me, especially @this time when I am making a decision on a life partner.for now I am actually more financially stable than my fiancee,but the special trait I can never take away from him is that he has such a good heart and a beautiful personality,he loves God and place me after God in his life.even though he knows I am more financially stable than he is,he still doesn’t let me spend my money on anything rather he takes care of his responsibility and tries to develop himself and career more.he is such a blessing to me.with this ur write-up I am no longer afraid to take d next step with him.he is a work in progress.

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  31. Rudrapersadh Rampersadh

    Look inside you find Happiness within you then you will find the right person don’t look for happiness in others when you have not found it. Life is simple people make it hard make circle small you will be content in life.

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  32. Beky Donkor

    Wow it takes someone who also has insight to choose such a person… Thanks buch

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  33. stalin

    I will take care. if I have children. my wife.

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  34. Esther Paul

    A good man God fearing.

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  35. June kang

    Hmm…can someone tell me what happened to that goodhearted man when in his middle age?

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  36. Chimezie Solomon okezie

    this is an inspiration to those who will only understand that good heart is better than riches.

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  37. Jabs

    thanks for reminding me how to be the man I should be. Gob bless your marriage.

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  38. Gfa Sechl

    Facts nothing else

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  39. Lev

    I agree this great advice. My so called guy sent me this amongst other messages that are mixed one including why marriage doesn’t work. He is confusing and thus it hurts. Perhaps God is telling me to choose differently.

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  40. Mr. Robin Rebello

    Thank you for this Ma’am. A well written article. Nailed it. Search is on for a good girl.

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  41. Babylyn Oliveros

    Inspiring story mommy thanks for this πŸ₯°πŸ₯°πŸ₯°

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  42. Saher

    Indeed
    Don’t be afraid to marry a work in progress man.

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  43. Uthman

    So inspiring , I just got married but I’m afraid bcos of my financial issues.

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  44. aimers

    wow that a true love

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  45. Mischelle

    Sana all ganyan im a single mom..kng bbgayn ako pagkkataon sna ung mabait at mapgamahl simple tao..thankyou for sharing

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  46. Mr.wrong

    I wish my wife would think like that. Sometimes being content and being stuck confuses her. She says she’s content, but it’s different with stuck with me. She can never be content with me because she did not dreamt of me. That I know.

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  47. Babylyn Oliveros

    Wow very inspiring mommy πŸ₯°β€οΈ

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  48. Rach

    I love this thought, “Having a man with a good heart “.

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